Agreeing to Walk Together
I am troubled by those who call themselves Christian, and yet hold to a view of community that is more totalitarian than biblical in its adherence to allowing little tolerance for disagreement. I am speaking of an attitude and mentality that fixes its eyes on another with a cold look and says, “If you don’t agree with us, get out. Go somewhere else. You don’t belong here.”
Regretfully, many Christians have been misled by the King James Version of Amos 3:3, which asks, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” They understand the prophet to be saying that any disagreement is detrimental to healthy relationship and community and thus, “no agreement, no relationship.” But that is not the meaning behind the original Hebrew.
The New International Version (NIV) better clarifies the original meaning as follows; “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? This more correctly suggests an agreement with another to walk together. It is a commitment to a planned activity together because I accept and respect you regardless of any possible disagreements.
Behavioral studies show that much of human anxiety is caused by an egocentric, neurotic need to have others agree with us. These same studies tell us that the dynamics of every healthy people grouping, whether it be church, community, or nation, includes lively disagreement.
To presume that others need us to correct them, but that we do not need them to correct us is to assign to ourselves an omniscience that belongs only to Almighty God. The “loyal opposition” is needed to keep us from getting too comfortable with our selfish, narrow, and off-times marred visions. Dietrich Bonhoffer warned that “He who can no longer listen to his brother will soon no longer be listening to God, either.”
I am reminded of the young man who stopped at a farmhouse asking for work. The farmer asked of his occupation, which was carpentry. At first the farmer said he had no work. Then, pointing across the road to the neighboring farm, he said, “That is where my brother lives and we have become bitter enemies. He even took a bulldozer and cut a stream from the reservoir through the pasture between us. I’ll hire you to take that lumber by the barn and build an eight-foot high solid fence between us, so that I don’t need to be looking at him.”
The farmer went to town for the day, and the young man went to work. When the farmer returned, instead of a fence, he saw a beautiful bridge across the stream, with handrails and all. At first, he was angry, but then he saw his brother walking down the hill to the bridge with his arms outstretched. As he walked to meet him, his younger brother called out, “You are a special brother, to think that you would build a bridge so that we can get together!”
As the carpenter was walking away, the farmer called, “Hey, where are you going?” The man answered, “I’m going to build other bridges!”
Bridges open us up to inviting and strengthening relationships with others. Walls close down, shut out, and weaken relationships with others. Bridges lead to new vistas, adventures, and unlimited possibilities. Walls protect comfortable, non-disturbing sameness and limited possibilities.
O church, community, and nation – we who call ourselves Christian – let us build bridges of loving acceptance, agreeing to walk together with all people. Let us build bridges of respectful listening to the “loyal opposition” as we walk together toward seeking common ground and guidance in making a better world for all of us.
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For We Are Strangers No More (Hymnal: A Worship Book, #322)
Refrain: For we are strangers no more, but members of one family; strangers no more, but part of one humanity; strangers no more, we’re neighbors to each other now; strangers no more, we’re sisters and we’re brothers now.
Come, walk with me, we’ll praise the Lord together, as we join song to song and prayer to prayer. Come, take my hand, and we will work together by lifting all the burdens we can share.
Where diff-ring cultures meet we’ll serve together; Where hatred rages we will strive for peace. Come, take my hand, and we will pray together that justice come and strife and warfare cease.
There is a love that binds the world together; a love that seeks the last, the lost, the least. One day that love will bring us all together in Christ from South and North, from West and East.
(Kenneth I. Morse, 1979)
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“Healing Rays of Righteousness” – 10/28/2020
Ray M. Geigley